IS IT CULTURAL OR BIBLICAL?
Pilgrims, recently I have had the opportunity to discuss the topic about how America has changed concerning the parenting of children with adult men, including my sons, and I have been profoundly disappointed by the results.
Perhaps, many of the Pilgrims will imitate a majority of Jesus’ followers when he talked about the requirements of being a ‘disciple’ (reference: John 6: 44-66), and they found it too hard to accept; and they fell away from the grace of God and from the security of eternity in Heaven with the Lord of the universe, and surrender their Pilgrim’s badge when they read my newest article for my blog.
It is my opinion that the Biblical Principles found in God’s holy word have been assigned a place where believers think they have the liberty to choose or reject God’s instructions because they consider it a ‘Cultural’ rather than a biblical truth.
Parenting with ‘Time-out’ rules verses biblical rules: cultural or biblical? I’m certainly not an expert defining every nuance of Time-out; but I can easily spot children who have been reared with this parenting system. Can you?
A parent that uses biblical truths will teach their children to have a healthy ‘fear’ of their Creator. The word ‘fear’ is grounded in Respect, awe, and reverence…because he made them. Biblical children will possess this quality for the same reason: father and mother, with God’s creative wonder, made them.
Biblical parents will know that their public fealty for Jesus commands them to live scripture rather than allow godless philosophy to comprise God’s instructions.
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These Commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:5-9
Why did God require this education? “Folly Is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15 God expects his Pilgrims to use various types of punishment, including spanking, to ensure the child doesn’t end up bringing shame and disgrace to his parents: “The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to itself disgraces his mother.” Proverbs 29:15
When the child is reared, isn’t it all about ‘image’? What do Pilgrim parents visualize the ‘end product’ should look like? “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6
Pilgrims, where did the origins of ‘Time-out’ Behavioral Psychology come from? Arthur Staats is an Atheist (his own words) who established an early Psychology, Behavioral ‘Think-tank’ manned by well-known Atheisst. From a university base: Berkley to Hawaii, these scholars (I laugh) changed parenting from a biblical to an Atheist system. It was championed by the Feminist and promoted by Atheist media and America’s educators.
God instructs parents to spank the kid’s butt when inappropriate behavior and choices are made; Atheist instruct parents to remove the child from the environment until it decides to demonstrate desired behavior God instructs the parents to bring about a solution with swift punishment: teach the child right from wrong. Time-out parenting confuses the child because the punishment varies based upon the parents’ moods and personal needs. God indicates every child’s heart is bound up with ‘foolishness. Time-out’ parents try to reason with a three year old!
God isn’t interested in Biblical parents being their child’s friend…until they are grown and out of the house. Time-out Atheist agenda parents consider being the child’s friend the highest goal in a parent child relationship…while they are rearing their children.
God expects a referential relationship with mankind that begins with respect of a Holy God. Time-out removes any referential relationship between a parent and a child because the parent wants to be ‘liked’ rather than respected; God forbid…feared, honored, and respected.
God’s parenting model removes the Chinese-water-torture treatment! Time-out parents live under its unceasing model. End result? Child removes any parenting barriers they aren’t comfortable with: i.e. s. respect for elders; call them by first name. Time-out parents encourage this inappropriate familiarity by their children. Children learn to conduct behavior and communication that demonstrates they believe they are equal in status to parents and adults: they openly correct them and choose to do as they please rather than what they are told to do. They soon learn that their defiance adds pressure on parents; doesn’t hold immediate consequences. Child operates without a filter! Since they are very uneducated about the world: are stupid about common sense things, but consider them equal to parents and other adults, they often tell truthful things that embarrass all, and it harms relationships for parents. Often this parenting flaw is hidden until child enters school.
Time-out parents seldom model the biblical mandate found in Deuteronomy, and a child grows up with a confused, flawed sense of ‘self-worth’ verses merit for obedience. Spoiled, defiant brats are often the end-result!
“If a man pampers his servant (child) from youth, he will bring grief in the end.” Proverbs 29:21
From a biblical perspective, who is to be blamed? Church leadership must wear the mantle of this unfortunate outcome. God’s leaders have allowed an Atheist agenda to compromise God’s biblical model for parenting by remaining silent under the ‘Self-esteem’ culture that has changed his Kingdom in America. Pulpits have been silent about God’s book of wisdom: Proverbs regarding biblical parenting. Church leadership has been held captive by an Atheist Feminist agenda bent on destroying the biblical family by refusing to teach and preach biblical roles and principles necessary for a Godly marriage and Godly parenting.
This great failure is explained as a ‘Cultural’ rather than a biblical mandate. What God thought was necessary for parents a hundred years ago isn’t necessary today. We have been enlightened and evolved since those draconian days and methods used by parents to rear children the modern generation declares. If God’s church on earth understands this is godless parenting and extremely harmful to children, one would seldom know…it remains muted in the war against a biblical family.
“Discipline your son (daughter), for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death.” Proverbs 19:18
“Stern discipline awaits him (her) who leaves the path; he who hates correction will die.” Proverbs 15:10
“Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with a rod, he will not die. Punish him with a rod and save his soul from death.”
Doc Christian isn’t advocating brutality! God is asking Pilgrim parents to decide what they desire as an eventual outcome for their child: are you more concerned about your child’s earthly well-being than his/her spiritual outcome? Time-out parenting isn’t concerned about your child’s eternal resting place; they don’t believe it exists.
Isn’t it true: everything that isn’t biblical is cultural? An Atheist culture hates a biblical one. If one doubts this wisdom, take a gander at Hollywood.
If you have chosen to be a ‘Time-out’ parent, perhaps, you now recognize this isn’t part of God’s plan for children; how do you correct it? You start with the second most important Proverb…next to the wisdom to fear a holy God so you might have wisdom…”Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.” Proverbs 16:3
I suggest you start with simple but profound baby-steps: Let your children, family, and friends, in and out of church, know if it contradicts biblical principles, you have stopped listening to the world’s wisdom All who urge you to compromise these principles, you politely let them know you are intentionally different when it comes to training your children to become useful, in love with Jesus, adults
Remember Doc Christian’s sage advice: parenting is a life sentence without any chance for parole. Rearing children with biblical principles and they reject its profound wisdom is one thing; never using biblical principles and they end up in Hell is quite another thing.
If people quiz you about this change, tell them you have decided to become a Joshua!
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